I was busy

I lied and said I was busy. I was busy; but not in a way most people understand. I was busy taking deeper breaths. I was busy silencing irrational thoughts. I was busy calming a racing heart. I was busy telling myself I am okay. Sometimes, this is my busy - and I will not apologize for it.

Brittin Oakman, Anxiety Doesn’t Knock First


Sometimes all a girl wants is for you to fight for her.

Sometimes all a girl wants is for you to fight for her. Make her understand that you want this relationship as much as she does.


20 Things Guys Shouldn't Ever Do To Girls

1. Make fun of her face, body, and clothes. Seriously. DON’T.

2. Overuse sarcasm. It’s one thing to joke, it’s another to speak sarcasm as a language. For instance, say sorry when you mean it. NOT SARCASTICALLY.

3. Flirt with other girls. It doesn’t make us want you more; it just makes us angry. So you might want to try it and see what happens.

4. Cheat. NEVER in a way will you get away with it.

5. Make promises you can’t keep. If you can’t follow it through, don’t say it. Easy as that.

6. Say “I love you” when you don’t mean it. If the girl you “loved” gained 300 pounds, would you still love her? Well that’s what I thought.

7. LIE. You WILL get caught. Don’t ever, under any circumstances, try to keep a lie going with a girl. IT WILL NOT WORK.

8. Deny things that are true. If a girl confronts you about something, most likely, she knows the truth already. Denying it makes her more angry. Grow some balls and own up to it.

9. Pressure her. If she wants to do something with you, she will.

10. Talk about other girls. Don’t say they are hot, pretty or even nice. We don’t want to hear that. OR, try to place yourself in our shoes when we compliment about other guys.

11. Say shit behind her back. No matter how much you try to keep it as a secret, she will hear about it.

12. Talk to her about your Ex/Exes. If you’re saying nice stuff, she will assume you still like her. And if you say shit, she will assume you will do the same to her.

13. Be a jerk in front of her friends. They might think it’s funny, but she will definitely not.

14. Blame her and make everything as her fault to get yourself out of the trouble. It will make things much, much worse.

15. Ask why she’s mad at you. Say you were wrong and apologize. DO NOT say you didn’t do anything wrong. If she’s mad, you obviously did something.

16. Joke about wanting to break up. It won’t be taken as a joke and you will be SINGLE before you can tell her you were kidding.

17. Tell her she’s overreacting. If you thought she was mad before, prepare to meet the she-beast from hell.

18. Go to parties and hang out with other girls without your girlfriend and without informing her. No matter how much she trusts you, she will be worried.

19. Make excuses. If you screwed up, don’t try to get out of it.

20. Talk to her when you are mad. You will screw something up and end up regretting it.

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Listen. If I'm with you, I'm with you. There is no one else.

Listen. If I'm with you, I'm with you. There is no one else. No. I'm not flirting with other people while I'm texting on my phone, i'm just talking to my friends. No. I'm not going to flirt back when someone else is trying to flirt with me, I'll just stop replying and end the conversation there. No. I'm not cheating on you when I don't answer you right away, I'm just busy and not on my phone at the moment. No. I'm not going to leave you and get back with any of my exes, they just hit me up but I won't flirt back. I don't want you to spend our relationship being scared of losing me every day, when you're supposed to enjoy being with me. Don't worry, I'm not going anywhere and I don't plan to go anywhere.


Sometimes, people will just let you go.

Sometimes, people will just let you go. People will just let you go without telling you. People will just let you go without even noticing they've let you go. They stop thinking about you every day. They stop texting you "good morning" when they first wake up in the morning. They stop replying to you because they have nothing much to say to you. They stop looking forward to the next time they're gonna see you. They stop placing you at the center of their attention. They stop making enough time to spend with you. They stop caring as much as they used to until they eventually don't care for you anymore. Once you've realized they've let you go, you find yourself slowly letting them go as well and eventually, you stop waiting for them to reply to you. You stop allowing them to take up so much space in your life. You stop making an effort to be a part of their day. You stop expecting them to come back to you with an apology. You stop needing them to be happy. You stop worrying about whether or not they're okay. You stop loving them because you now have nothing left to love yourself with. You accept that you're no longer a part of their lives and they're no longer a part of yours, and you move on. Everybody will tell you that's how it goes, but nobody will tell you how much it hurts.


I love you in a way I’ve never loved anyone before.

I love you. I don’t mean I love you like the way I love my coffee with two sugars or the way I love an extra 10 minutes of sleep or the way I love soup on a cold day. I love you in a way I’ve never loved anyone before. I love you in a way that consumes me.


I love you

I hope you know that every time I tell you to get home safe, stay warm, have a good day, or sleep well what I am really saying is I love you. I love you so damn much that it is starting to steal other words meanings.


You deserve to be loved by someone who makes you feel special.

You deserve someone who makes effort every day, not just on Valentines Day. You deserve to be loved by someone who makes you feel special every single moment of the day.


It’s so hard to find someone who only has eyes for you.

It’s so hard to find someone who only has eyes for you. Eyes that don’t wander, a mind that is certain. People will spit out the words I love you yet harbor some sort of lustful attraction to others. They’ll claim to love you but entertain the idea of someone else.

If you should find someone who mentally, physically and or emotionally loyal to you. Appreciate everything that they represent because people like that are so hard to find.

r.h. Sin


Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.

Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.


Relationships are never easy.

Relationships are never easy. Some days you're going to wake up and that love you know you have for the person in the bed next to you, isn't going to come so easily. We always say, "no one told us it was going to be this hard," but they did. We choose not so listen because it seems so unreasonable that one day, you will find yourself doubting your love for that person. The only way you can make a relationship last is if you work at it every single day, and never give up on it. Because if you fight and argue and quarrel with that person and still can't imagine leaving them, then you love them. And that's the kind of love that's forever. 


10 best quotes on priorities and options in relationships

When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options, help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation. Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do. Because sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you. It’s not pride – it’s self-respect.

Don't treat someone like a priority when they treat you like an option. - Marc Twain

If people treat you like an option, leave them like a choice.

I learned that who doesn’t look for you, doesn’t miss you and who doesn’t miss you doesn’t care for you… that destiny determines who enters your life but you decide who stays… that the truth hurts only once and a lie every time you remember it. There are three things in life that leave and never return: words, time and opportunities… therefore, value whoever values you and don’t treat as a priority whoever treats you as an option.

Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option. -Maya Angelou

The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs. -Shannon L. Alder

Staying in a situation where you're unappreciated isn't called loyalty; It's called breaking your own heart.

If you spend too long holding on to the one who treats you like an option, you'll miss finding the one who treats you like a priority.

You put all this effort into one person. You try so damn hard for them to love you as much as you love them. But the sick reality is they won’t ever love you. You won’t get the happy ending. You’ll keep trying and just get hurt no matter how hard you try because you’ll always be the second choice.

If they act like they can live without you, help them do it.


A woman can support him, love him, adore him, or destroy him.

A woman can support him, love him, adore him, or destroy him. It all depends on how he treats her.

Charles Orlando


If a man loves you...

Men aren’t stupid, and you don’t need a complicated set of rules to find a good one who loves you. Here’s the only rule you need: if a man loves you, he will do anything he can to keep you around. Anything.

Kim Gruenenfelder


You don’t have to hear “I Love You” to know that someone does.

“Good Morning”
“How was your day?”
“Be careful”
“Text me when you get home so I know you’re safe”
“Sweet dreams”
“How are you?”
“I hope you’re feeling better”
“Have a good day today!”
“I miss you”
“Good night”
“Can you come over?”
“Can I come over?”
“Can I see you?”
“Can I call you?”
“You’re beautiful”
“Want something to drink?”
“Watch your step”
“Let’s watch a movie”
“What are you up to?”
“How is your day so far?”
“It will be okay”
“I’m here for you”
“Do you need anything?”
“Are you hungry?”
“I just wanted to hear your voice”
“You just made my day”

You don’t have to hear “I Love You” to know that someone does. Listen carefully. People speak from the heart more often than you think.


One day you’ll meet a guy...

One day you’ll meet a guy,and ultimately, he’s going to find out how you chew, how you sip, how you dance, how you smell at every point in the day, how your face looks underneath all of your makeup, how you love chocolate, how you can be hyper at times, how certain games and shows make you really happy, how cranky you can get when you’re tired, and how you think you look bad in all of your photos. He’s going to know everything about you, and you know what? He’s still going to love you.


10 Best Quotes about people come and go

People come, people go – they’ll drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in a favorite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures. Then you find yourself focusing on the new ones, not the ones from the past. - Nicholas Sparks

People come and go, but life is simply about seeing who cares enough to stay.

No matter what is going on in your life today, remember, it is only preparation. People come and go; situations rise and fall; it’s all preparation for better things. You must stretch, reach, grow into your goodness. Without the preparation we receive through adversity, disappointment, confusion, or pain, we could not appreciate the goodness when it arrives. -Iyanla Vanzant

People come and go, pain comes and goes. But so does joy. And if our hearts are closed because we don't want to suffer, they won't be open enough to recognize the joy as it flies by. -Geneen Roth

Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.

Some people come into your life just to teach you how to let go.

People come and go. Everyone that's been in your life has been there for a reason, to teach you, to love you, or to experience life with you.

Nobody is worth stressing over. People come and go. Move on and go find yourself, the world is yours. Life goes on. 

People come into your life and go, but you will always have to live with yourself. Make yourself pleasant, positive, and peaceful. -Akin Olokun

People come and go in your life, but the right ones will always stay.


Don't mention a person's past mistakes when they are trying to change.

Don't mention a person's past mistakes when they are trying to change. That's like throwing rocks at them while they climb a mountain.


You'll be fine.

You'll be fine. Feeling unsure and lost is part of your path. Don't avoid it. Breathe. You'll be okay even if you don't feel it all the time.


It’s never easy for a good woman to walk away..

It’s never easy for a good woman to walk away; especially after she’s invested so much of herself into making it work. Just know, that by the time she finally decides to leave, she’s given you countless chances and debated the idea, over and over in her head, at least 1000 times. She’s exhausted; she’s frustrated and totally heartbroken to have to walk away from a man who, deep down inside, she still loves and is still willing to fight for.
Mr. Amari Soul


Never settle for anything less than what you deserve.

Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life. Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.


I love people who are direct.

I love people who are direct. You know where they stand and they don't play games.


Never beg someone to be in your life.

Never beg someone to be in your life. If you text, call, visit and still get ignored, walk away. It's called 'SELF-RESPECT'.

Steve Wentworth


I like people who can keep a conversation going no matter how random the topics get.


I hope you find a love that truly makes you happy.

My hope is that when you find love again, I hope that it is everything you ever dreamed about. I hope that you find a love that has the power to tear down the painful walls of your past, so that you both can build a new wall filled with beautiful memories. I hope that you find someone who makes your heart beat faster. I hope that you find someone who you can; trust, communicate and understand on levels that you never established with anyone before. I hope they make you feel safe and protected. I hope they make you laugh, even when you don't want to. I hope they make you smile, even when you can't remember how. I hope they help you work through all of your flaws, so that you can grow and evolve in ways you never knew you could. I hope they pour in you and never drain you. I hope they make you shed beautiful tears in the quiet moments like you always see in the movies. I just hope that you find a love that truly makes you happy.


Some days, I can conquer the world..

Some days, I can conquer the world; Other days, it takes me three hours to convince myself to bathe.


Stay strong!

Stay strongmake them wonder how you're still smiling


A strong woman accepts both compliments and criticism graciously

A strong woman accepts both compliments and criticism graciously, knowing that it takes both sunshine and rain for a flower to grow.  

Mandy Hale


She's the girl

She's the girl that believes that what comes around goes around. The one that hopes for a better day. The one that won't give up on you. She's the girl that's unlike the rest. The one that spent her days smiling, and her nights crying. She's the girl that would love to be loved. The one that looks so damn strong, but feels so weak. She's the girl that picks herself up every time she falls.


She is you.

Is there anything she can't handle? She's been broken. She's been knocked down. She's been defeated. She's felt the pain that most couldn't handle. She looks fear in the face; year after year, day after day, but yet, she never runs. She never hides. And she ALWAYS finds a way to get back up. She's unbreakable. She's a warrior. She's you.


I'm really glad our paths crossed.

I remember when I first met you. I thought to myself. "How do I live my life without you? How did I manage that?" A few years have passed since that day and I'm beginning to think that our paths have almost finished crossing. I feel like I am slowly losing you and each day now consists of less of you and more of everything and everyone else and soon we'll become those people who cross the street to avoid each other. Strangers. Maybe this is for the better. Maybe we have run out of love to give to each other. I don't know but what I do know is that I am extremely glad that our paths crossed. Even if it was just for a moment. - a.y


I hope one day you will realize I did truly care for you.

I hope one day you will realize I did truly care for you. I promise you, you’re going to miss me being there, putting up with you and refusing to give up on you. You’re going to regret everything you’ve done to me, including all the damage you caused. Someday, you’ll turn back and I won’t be waiting for you any longer. I might have been worthless to you, but you’ll miss me, when I become priceless to another.


The most miserable people..

The most miserable people are those who care only about themselves, understand only their own troubles and see only their own perspective.


I am a strong woman

I am a strong woman because a strong woman raised me! 


Stop breaking your own heart.

Stop ignoring actions and trusting words. Stop giving your all to a person who gives you nothing. Stop hanging on to someone who has let go of you. Stop expecting change from a person who doesn’t want to be changed. Stop letting the fear of loneliness cause you to settle for less than what you deserve. Stop letting the wrong reasons keep you in a relationship that isn’t right for you. Stop breaking your own heart.

Trent Shelton


I will breath.

I will breathe. I will think of solutions. I will not let my worry control me. I will not let my stress level break me. I will simply breathe. And it will be okay. Because I don' t quit.  

Shayne McClendon


Some people can't function without negativity

Some people can't function without negativity because bringing down others makes them feel better.


and then I realized that all along I was looking for myself.

I was looking for someone to inspire me, motivate me, support me, keep me focused; someone who would effectively love me, cherish me, make me happy and then I realized that all along I was looking for myself.


Believe in yourself.

Don't let fear or insecurity stop you from trying new things. Believe in yourself. Do what you love. And most importantly, be kind to others, even if you don't like them.

Stacy London


There are two things you shouldn't waste your time on

There are two things you shouldn't waste your time on: things that don't matter and people that think you don't matter.


10 Things You Need To Know About Depression

It’s a real illness
Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain - a deficiency of either serotonin, dopamine, adrenalin or noradrenalin. Just because it’s an invisible illness, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t real.

Depression is very, very common
A lot of people think that depression is rare and that only freaks suffer from it, but the truth is that according to the World Health Organisation, depression afflicts 121 million people worldwide, and as many as 10% of adults in the Western World. You may think you don’t know anyone who’s suffering from depression, but odds are that you do.

People with depression are sick - not crazy
Mental illnesses are like physical illnesses - you treat them and get better. A person with a mental illness is no more crazy than a person with a physical illness.

Anyone can fall victim to depression
Depression is one of those illnesses that doesn’t discriminate. No matter how much money you make or what gender, age, sexuality, colour or creed you are, you’re at risk of falling victim.

People with depression are not necessarily “negative” or “ungrateful”
Just because a person suffers from depression, it doesn’t mean that they’re a negative or an ungrateful person. Again, depression is an illness, and it can happen to anyone - positive and grateful people included.

People with depression are not attention seekers
There are exceptions to nearly every rule, but the vast majority of people with depression are most certainly not attention seekers. If they were, then why are they famous for saying “I’m fine” when they feel miserable? Why do they go to extreme lengths to hide their cuts if they self-harm? And why does suicide usually come as such a shock?The truth is that most people with depression hide their pain - often out of fear of being judged or discriminated against.

You can’t just “be happy” or “get over it”
Most people who suffer from depression have had someone say this to them at some point in time. But it doesn’t work like that. Depression is an illness - a person with depression can’t just snap their fingers and “get over it” in the same way that a person with cancer can’t just flick a switch and magically become healthy again.

People with depression can still be very high functioning
Just because someone suffers from depression, it doesn’t mean that they’re incompetent or unable to function. History is filled with countless highly successful people who suffered from depression, including Sir Winston Churchill, J.K. Rowling, Gwyneth Paltrow, Stephen Fry, Angelina Jolie, Mark Twain, Demi Lovato, Abraham Lincoln, and Sir Isaac Newton.

If someone with depression has a “good day”, it doesn’t mean that they no longer have depression
People with depression can have “good” days where they don’t feel depressed - indeed, they can have days where they even feel happy. But it’s a mistake to assume that just because they feel good one day, that they’re no longer sick and therefore should feel good every day. Depression just doesn’t work like that.

Suffering from depression is much, much more than just having a bad day or feeling ephemerally sad
A bad day is just that - a bad day - and sadness is a fleeting emotion. Clinical depression on the other hand can make you feel utterly miserable - not for just one day, but for weeks, months, or even years on end. It can make you feel completely worthless. It can make you feel exhausted. It can make you hate yourself. It can make you self-harm. And worst of all, it can make you feel suicidal and drive you to carry out those thoughts. Depression is a word many people throw around carelessly (“I have to go to work on Monday, that is so depressing”), but when used in its clinical sense, it describes a debilitating, gut-wrenching illness.

Written by Danny Baker
Read more about his struggle to recover from depression here


When I look into your eyes I see how happy you are without me.

When I look into your eyes I see how happy you are without me. And then I lie and say I’m happy for you too.